Four tips to increase life satisfaction

Today, I would like to share with you four rules of action that I have followed for many years.

They may be simple, but they are both effective ways to increase life satisfaction and make your life Fuller and richer.

Hope to give you a little inspiration and thinking.

1. Create a memorable impression for each day

Do You Keep a diary?
Don’t worry, I’m not here today to urge you to keep a diary-that’s already a bit of a cliché. What I want to say is: without the help of diary, can you recall last month’s today, last month’s today… ? … What Happened to you? What impressed you?
I think for many people, this is by no means an easy thing to do. After all, we live day to day, moving between home and work. Even if the occasional experience of some interesting waves, will soon be washed away by the inertia of life, submerged in the busy day-to-day inside.
How many times have you tried to remember your life, only to find it empty, with little to remember?
This is actually a bit of a pity. For each of us, all material wealth is an external thing, can not be accompanied by their own permanent. What can really accompany their own life? Our experiences, feelings, and memories. Unfortunately, many people tend to focus too much on the former and not enough on the latter.
We work hard to live better, not we live to work.
Consider this:
If you stretch it out to, like, a year, five years, ten years… … So, this day that you’ve just had, is there an event, an experience, or an idea, that could mark this day? Is there anything you can do to make this day different from the rest of it?
This is a habit I have practiced for many years: to mark each day with a“Mark.”.
What is this mark? It is, in short, the distinctive“Color” of our ordinary, routine day that sets it apart from the rest. It can be an experience, an adventure, an experiment, a meeting, an achievement…
A few simple examples:

Today, I have a problem that I can not understand. After some hard thinking and studying, I finally understand it. It could be a mark.

Today contacted a long time no contact with friends, to talk about each other’s current situation, each other to cheer up, this can be a mark.

Today delivered a small project, got the customer’s affirmation and boss’s appreciation, this can be a mark.

I had some time after work today, so I took a little detour to try a restaurant I’ve always wanted to try. It can also be a mark…

Put simply: If you were asked to keep a journal, how would you sum up your day in one sentence?
Do you think of one or two interesting things at once and write them down, lest you forget them, or do you search your mind and then say, “Nothing’s wrong today”?
If you’re in the latter category, I suggest you give it a try and consciously challenge yourself each day: Can I take the initiative to do something different today? Leave some more impressive marks on my life and memories?
Of course, you don’t have to keep a journal, you don’t have to write it down-you just have to try to create a“Mark” that you can tie to the day… Let this day have some meaning in your life, from the mundane to the glittering…
Over time, this can make your memories become Fuller and Fuller. Whether the encounter is lost, depressed, or boring, lazy… … you can dig them out and let yourself savor them. From this immersion comes rest and strength.
They are your best bet against an uncertain future.

2. Set a soft deadline for do or do not

How many of the“Don’ts” that you thought you were doing had been put off for so long that by the time you think about them again, they’re past their prime, meaningless?
If you have a lot, then it doesn’t matter, everyone is the same, me too.
Everyone always overestimates themselves when making plans, always thinking about“How much I want to do” instead of“How much I can do”. In the end, it will be found that either something is just a whim, then gradually lost interest; or value and necessity is not great, has not been able to make up their mind to act…
In my own experience, most of the time, I have at least 30 or 40 things on My To-do list that I want to do but don’t do. Some of these ideas were spur-of-the-moment ideas, some were project optimization ideas, some were trivial details, and some were directions to explore and try… … A lot of records go up and never get a chance to go down and have to be taken off the list.
This is actually a very sorry thing.
。Everything that we think of in the present moment must be of value, or it would not enter our consciousness. But as time goes on, our interest in them diminishes, and their value diminishes, and they are likely to become, in the end, as unpalatable as chicken.
If we can get rid of it, even if it can not play 100% of the value, but at least we can leave a little trace in our lives, to provide us with a little“Experience value” and a sense of achievement.
So, What’s an easy solution? When you list these do’s and don’ts, assign them a soft deadline.
“Soft” because it is not a mandatory limit, even if you really do not do nothing. However, if you have the spare time and the condition, might as well be approaching this deadline, as far as possible to do it, don’t let it in vain, abandoned by you.
:A simple example:
You had a frank and in-depth discussion with a friend today. You find it valuable and would like to jot down the main points of this discussion for future review and Reminder. But since it’s not that important, you may not have a strong motivation to act all the time, always telling yourself“Just wait” and“Tomorrow”… … and then, two months later, it just sort of faded away.
Is it serious? It’s not serious, it won’t affect your life; but is it a pity? For one thing, you miss an opportunity to improve yourself, enrich your memories, and strengthen your friendships.
So, the next time you have an issue like this, you can write it down and give it a soft deadline, telling yourself: I want it done by the end of the week. That way, by the end of the week, you can make this a higher priority, get other less important things out of the way, and get it done first.
On the one hand, it will help you accumulate a sense of accomplishment. You may think that these little things don’t matter, but it’s these small“Successes” that will keep your self-esteem and self-confidence up, it makes you more aware of“I am capable” and“I can do this”.
In this way, when you really face problems, they will become your“Implicit self” to help you better face the difficulties and solve the problems.
On the other hand, solving these little things can also help you learn more about your abilities, preferences, and habits. You can know more clearly how much spare power you have, what you can and can’t do… … It gives you a clearer idea of the principles and order in which you should act when you have a lot to work out.
This may be something you can’t learn from any other way or channel.

3. fine-tune and optimize the“Living system”

How do you prioritize when you have so many things to do? In other words, how do you think about what needs to be done first and what can be done later?
This is a very complex problem, it often needs to consider a number of factors, it is difficult to have a consistent approach. But I have a rule: make long-term gains a priority.
What is a long-term gain? It’s really quite simple. One thing you can do right now, right now, and it will work quickly, and every single day will make a difference, increasing your productivity and reducing your worries, and that’s a long-term benefit.
A few simple examples:
Adding a new feature to the public account to make it easier for users to search for content is a long-term benefit. It only takes a few hours of action, and it works immediately, and every day.
Optimizing your workflow steps to make it easier and faster to complete daily tasks and reduce the“Friction” of operations is also a long-term benefit.
It’s also a long-term benefit to change your environment, to let your Environment Be Your Enabler, to help you change your behavior and develop good habits.
For the third example, see: a way to do everything with half the effort
What’s the point? The vast majority of these long-term gains are characterized by low short-term gains. They often don’t matter much at the moment, don’t help you with immediate problems, and don’t provide you with strong positive feedback.
Sometimes the short-term payoff is negative: it takes effort and time, but it doesn’t work in the short term. It takes time to develop, to actually work-the classic example is to create a new habit.
Therefore, these things are often rejected by our brains. The reason is simple: the brain is always short-sighted. Without strong short-term feedback, the brain doesn’t like it.
There are many similar examples in life:
Clearly change the default settings and parameters of the good things, but every time to manually select and adjust;
Clearly learn how to use the software can solve the problem, but every time to manually complete a lot of operations;
Clearly tidies up the room, optimizes the moving line to be good, actually each time must tirelessly search inside from a pile of things;
Most of the time, are we lazy? Not really. It doesn’t really take us much time to deal with these problems. But the brain just keeps ignoring them and not putting them in the“Need to fix” category.
What we need to do is to consciously think about and focus on these things and artificially elevate their priorities to overcome the inertia of the brain.
In essence, this is a way of constantly optimizing and adjusting our“Living system”. Each time we adjust, we are making the system more in line with our habits, so that we use more smoothly.

4. Incorporate tasks into your daily life

When many people set goals, they set themselves a series of tasks, such as:

Set a quantitative goal, tell yourself, how many days, how much I must be done, in order to complete the task;

Break down the goal into each day, tracking punch card, required to complete a certain amount of things every day, if not, it is necessary to review, reflect, to see where the problem;

In order to better achieve the mission, let oneself into a“Combat readiness” state, the daily life of some non-essential things to be suspended, everything to make way for this mission…

That leaves two easy outcomes:
First, it’s hard to experience happiness and fulfillment in this sprint. Because it’s so easy to just focus on the end goal, and all you do every day is calculate, “Have I done today’s goal, “How far am I from the end goal,” all your happiness, only in the goal of the moment to enjoy. Other than that, most of what you feel is stress.
Second, under such long expectations and pressure, it’s easy for you to do what? Give up halfway. The most common scenario is that you overestimate your ability to“Persevere.”. After a few days of high spirits, when for one reason or another it’s not done, there’s a strong sense of frustration and saying to yourself:Anyway, there is no way to be perfect, progress can not catch up, forget it.
Over time, once this happens too many times, … It’s easy to label yourself as“I’m not cut out for this,”“I’m too impatient,”“I’m not disciplined,”“I’m a three-minute man”…
So What’s a better way?
We should not think of self-improvement as a task, separate it from daily life, but think of it as daily life itself.
To put it simply: a better way to actually get something done, learn something, and improve yourself is not to think of it as a non-routine, urgent task, instead, incorporate it into your daily life and make it a part of your daily life.
Why? Simple. Anything that you need to really produce results requires long-term practice. But when you think of it as a task, there is an implicit assumption:As soon as I finish this task, I’ll be done and I can master/learn/do it.
So, a lot of the time, when we make a plan, set a goal, and then go sprinting, punch in with gusto, it’s more like a game: we’re just moved by the experience of“Making the effort,”“Enduring the pain,” and“Experiencing the outcome.”.
A better approach is to design your“Daily life” lifestyle. Once you make something a daily habit and incorporate it into your daily routine, you won’t find it so difficult or complicated. Over time, you will be able to benefit from it without having to think about how to improve yourself.
Try this step:
1) keep a log of how much time you spend each day for a period of time, and then review it to see which time periods you can optimize.
2) think about what you want to do, what you want to learn, and then make a simple list of simple activities to do each day. At the beginning can be as simple as possible, the length of time can be less than half an hour, must be simple enough, you can act immediately, no psychological burden.
3) try it for a while. If you’re struggling, try adjusting other activities to match it; if you still can’t, shorten the time a bit. Find a rhythm that feels comfortable.
4) by the time you’re fully comfortable with the habit and feel comfortable doing nothing each day, you’re done, so you can move on to the next action and schedule it into your daily routine.
And so on and so on.
Self-improvement is not at any end, but always on the way.

Hopefully, today’s article will help you feel more fulfilled and more productive and organized.

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